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Common Forms of Abuse:
Physical abuse is a powerful way that an abusive person gets and keeps their partner under control and it instills an environment of constant fear. While physical abuse is the form of abuse that is most commonly known, it may or may not be a part of an abusive relationship. If physical abuse is present early in the relationship, it commonly gets worse over time. If there is no physical abuse in the relationship, it may begin to occur when the victim is pregnant or when the victim is considering leaving the relationship.
Physical violence may include: hitting, punching, kicking, slapping, strangling, smothering, using or threatening to use weapons, shoving, interrupting your sleep, throwing things, destroying property, hurting or killing pets, and denying medical treatment.
Some form of sexual abuse is common in abusive relationships but it is often the least discussed. It can be subtle or overt. The impact on the victim is commonly feelings of shame and humiliation.
Sexual abuse may include: physically forcing sex, making you feel fearful about saying no to sex, forcing sex with other partners, forcing you to participate in demeaning or degrading sexual acts, violence or name calling during sex, and denying contraception or protection from sexually transmitted diseases.
Apart from physical abuse, this form of abuse is very prevalent in domestic violence situations. It is how most abusers take the power and control over in the relationship.
Some forms of this abuse includes insulting, threatening, gaslighting, blaming the abuse on the victim, belittling, manipulating, name-calling and talking badly about the victim to their friends, family, etc.
This form of abuse is one of the least commonly known but one of the most powerful tactic of entrapping a victims in the relationship. It is so powerful that many victims of abuse describe it as the main reason that they stayed in an abusive relationship or went back to one.
Some forms of financial abuse include: giving you an allowance, not letting you have your own money, hiding family assets, running up debt, interfering with your job, and ruining your credit.
What is Domestic Violence?
The National Network to End Domestic Violence states: Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive and assaultive behaviors that one former or current intimate partner uses against the other.
The following is a list of early warning signs that someone may be abusive. This list was put together by survivors of domestic violence who reflected on the early phases of the battering relationship and identified some of the early warning signs of abusers.
Common Batterer Behavior
People who batter have a need to gain and maintain all of the power and control in the relationship. People who batter come from all walks of life but have common characteristics:
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Citations: Statistics and Information on this page come from the National Network to End Domestic Violence and Domestic Violence Statistics. For more information, please visit their websites at nnedv.org and domesticviolencestatistics.org.